What's Your Relationship Communication Failure Mode?

When relationship communication breaks down, everyone has a default malfunction. Do you go Silent Treatment (punishment through absence), Word Avalanche (can't stop explaining), Scorekeeping (bringing up past wrongs), or Deflecting (it's actually YOUR fault)? This assessment identifies your go-to unhealthy communication pattern, why you developed it, and specific replacement behaviors. Most couples fight about the same things because they're having the same failed communication patterns, not because the issues are unresolvable. Fix the pattern, fix the fights.